9 Signs You’re Becoming Your Best Self

You might be surprised to realize the signs you’re becoming your best self.

Personal growth is a lifelong journey, but a rewarding one. Along this journey, we encounter signs that indicate our progress and evolution.

If you’re going along that journey, you might be looking for signs that it’s actually working.

Here are some exciting signs you’re becoming your best self, and that your glow-up is working!

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9 Signs You’re Becoming Your Best Self

Recently I published a guide called “20 Things I Stopped Doing to Become My Best Self” and this guide goes hand in hand.

These signs guide and inspire your transformative journey.

So, let’s delve into the process of becoming your best self and the signs that make it clear you’re headed that way:

1. You Set Daily Habits & Stick To Them

As you are becoming your best self, you will start to break bad habits in favor of learning new good ones that actually improve your life.

If you are excited to jump out of bed in the morning because you get to do your morning routine, that’s a big hint that you are well on your way to living your best life.

2. You Write Letters To Yourself As If You’ve Acheived Everything You Dream Of

Writing to yourself, from the perspective of you in the future after you’ve accomplished all your wildest goals is also called scripting.

It’s a manifestation tool that gets you into the vibration of the type of lifestyle you desire, so you can start feeling like you already have it now, and thus, you start attracting more of that energy.

If you are already doing this, I have no doubt that you are on your way and becoming your best self!

3. You Stop Criticising Others

People who criticize others, gossip, and generally act negatively only attract more sadness.

If you stop yourself from criticizing others, avoid gossip and do your best to share positivity instead, you are absolutely becoming your best self.

4. You Define your own version of success

A big sign you’re becoming your best self is if you’ve defined your own version of success.

You don’t get down comparing yourself to others, and instead, you have a vision of what a successful life means to you.

5. You Cut Yourself Some Slack

You are your own best advocate (and sometimes the ONLY one), and it’s important that you treat yourself with patience and understanding.

One of the biggest signs of becoming your best version is your ability to cut yourself some slack.

Life is demanding, with constant pressure – easing up on yourself can go a long way. Here are a few steps you can take to achieve this:

• Embrace imperfection: perfection is an unattainable goal, allow yourself to make mistakes and learn as you grow
• Prioritize self-care: your physical, mental and emotional well-being is important, and prioritizing self-care is how you can rejuvenate and replenish
• Lean into self-compassion: offer kindness and understanding when you face challenges and setbacks and forgo the self-criticism 
• Set realistic expectations: aim for realistic goals that align with your values and capabilities, it’s OK to recognize your limits and honor personal boundaries
• Celebrate the small victories: even the smallest achievements are worthy of a little celebration – embrace and celebrate what you do and accomplish

It’s important to remember that cutting yourself slack doesn’t mean you embrace mediocrity or complacency.

It simply means showing yourself kindness, prioritizing your own wellness, and paving the way for personal growth.

6. Set Boundaries & Stick With Them

Establishing and maintaining boundaries plays a key role in becoming your best self.

You simply cannot be everything to everyone, so boundaries serve as a framework for healthy relationships, meaningful self-care, and your overall well-being.

Being able to set these boundaries and consistently uphold them demonstrates a deep respect for yourself, and signifies making some serious progress on your journey.

Here are some indicators you’re getting good at it:

• Recognize your own needs: self-awareness of your physical and mental needs helps you identify what’s truly important to you, and ultimately helps you establish and communicate boundaries that support them
• Communicating assertively: expressing your boundaries confidently without fearing judgment or conflict is a big step towards upholding boundaries AND becoming your best self
• Self-respect: if you don’t respect yourself, no one else will – setting and maintaining healthy boundaries that support your well-being is a way to establish that self-respect
• Saying no: no is a powerful full sentence, and it’s important to learn how to use it – there’s no need to feel guilty or regretful when you uphold a boundary that’s set to preserve your time, energy and resources
• Honor your limits: identifying and honoring your limits, both in terms of workload and emotional capacity allows you the space to practice self-care and rest

Learning to set and stick to boundaries can be a transformative practice that empowers you to take control of your life, relationships, and personal growth.

Boundaries are not meant to be walls, they’re simply bridges (and gates) that you build to foster healthier connections and more authentic self-expression.

7. Let Yourself Feel Your Emotions

Emotions are best played through, bottling them up does nothing but do long-term damage, both emotionally and physically.

Becoming your best self really does involve allowing you to experience your emotions without judging or suppressing yourself.

While authentically feeling and navigating your emotions can vary from person to person, taking this step toward self-awareness and emotional intelligence often looks like:

• Emotional awareness: the ability to recognize and name your feelings as they arise, instead of brushing them aside or burying them within
• Allowing vulnerability: cultivating a willingness to be vulnerable and open with yourself and others about your emotions, and recognizing that vulnerability is not a weakness but a strength
• Honoring your emotional response: instead of dismissing or minimizing your feelings and responses, you honor and validate them – every emotion serves a purpose and holds valuable information about you, your needs, desires and boundaries
• Practice emotional regulation: developing skills for managing and regulating emotions is important for maintaining a natural and necessary balance
• Learning from emotional experiences: you’re never done learning and growing emotionally, the more you do the more you gain wisdom and resilience

Allowing yourself to feel your emotions doesn’t mean being controlled by them.

It simply means creating a space within yourself to acknowledge and process them, then decide what to do. 

8. Let Go of People That Don’t “Fit”

Not everyone in your life is meant to be there for a lifetime.

As you work on becoming your best self, it’s crucial to surround yourself with people who uplift, support, and align with your values and aspirations.

Sometimes this means letting go of people that no longer serve your current stage of life.

It takes strength and self-awareness to recognize when certain people don’t “fit” into your life anymore.

Here are a few indicators that you’re becoming skilled at letting go of relationships that no longer align with your best self: 

• Evaluate relationship dynamics: you regularly assess the dynamics of relationships and evaluate whether they’re healthy, balanced, and mutually beneficial
• Trusting your intuition: you develop a deep trust in your intuition and inner voice when it comes to relationships, pay attention to any discomfort or unease that arises in certain connections
• Setting healthy boundaries: when you establish clear expectations for mutual respect, communication and support, you’re able to set and enforce healthy boundaries that make relationships flourish
• Prioritize growth and positivity: you surround yourself with people who support you and value growth and positivity, and remove anyone (or thing) in your life that fails to support the future you want to build for yourself
• Embrace a healthy detachment: the ability to detach yourself from relationships that no longer serve you without excessive guilt or attachment, it’s this that will push the most growth

It’s important to remember that curating your friend group is important, but letting go of relationships that don’t fit anymore doesn’t mean you need to harbor ill-will or cut ties abruptly.

Instead, you want to acknowledge that people and circumstances change, and that is A-OK!

9. Give Yourself Time & Space to Make Decisions

You deserve the time and space to make decisions, and when you start making that conscious choice, you’re more likely to make decisions that align with your long-term goals.

A few indicators that you’re really coming into yourself on this include:

• Avoid impulsive actions: you don’t rush into decisions impulsively, instead, you have learned the value of patience and thoughtful consideration, which results in decisions that are more aligned to your long-term goals
• Seeking clarity: taking the time to reflect, gather information, and weigh different perspectives, helps you better understand your own desires and priorities
• Trusting your intuition: your instincts can provide valuable insights and guidance when making choices, it allows for a deeper level of self-awareness
• Consider the long-term impact: adopting a forward-thinking mindset is a healthy way to ensure you continue to become your best self
• Embrace flexibility: give yourself permission to change course if you’ve decided it’s time – we all grow, and it’s OK to embrace that

Ultimately, giving yourself the time and space to make decisions isn’t about procrastination or indecisiveness, it’s a deliberate practice of self-care and self-trust. 

Signs You’re Becoming Your Best Self – Conclusion

Becoming your best self is a transformative journey of self-discovery, growth, and learning.

Embrace the signs we’ve explored: self-compassion, boundaries, emotional embrace, let go, and decision-making space.

Be patient, celebrate the process, and prioritize self-care. Make sure you trust your instincts, honor your emotions, and embrace your unique strengths.

You need to believe in your ability to become the best version of yourself. You’ve got this!